why we have to learn positive psychology?

not everything will work on u

1 importance to focus on what works

2 being happy is not to deny 

3prevention is more important

resilience适应力

ask positive questions

appreciate your own strength and happiness

learn to improve ourselves

appreciate means to grow

appreciate your strength and other's

ask questions

1 understand the question

2 Marva Collins positive learning

the strength to admit weakness.

the dominant color of the geometric shapes.

the consequence of this specific focus,that is not always good it's not always helpful.

deficiency

good things do not exist in the relationship if the only question asked about is what is wrong.

what are our virtues

self-respect, self-confidence, happiness

Why  depression, anxiety

low self-esteem

the solution to the question

resilience

question creates reality

to appreciate what is working

to appreciate what is good

to say thank you for something, not to take it for granted.

appreciate has a second meaning, which is to grow.

the economy hopefully appreciates.

when we appreciate the good, the good appreciates--the good grows

Unfortunately, the other side of the same coin applies as well.

narcissism-daffodil

is not self-confidence

grounded confidence

metaphorically speaking

Stavros and Torres in the wonderful book on relationships"Our experienc of the world is heaviliy infulenced by where we place our attention."

the importance of understanding question

Marva Collins

discrimination

" you can make something ."

concrete ceiling

glass ceiling

certificate

" We are going to do a lot of practice of believing in ourselves”

To cultivate the strengths and the good.

the last resort

scorching hot in summer, yet the students are driven by the passion

Every one ends up in college.

it changes overnight

segment on her

Overnight she became famous

secretary of Education

philanthropist

"Positive teaching"

I think I am unique.

When they misbehave, their punishment is they have to write 100 reasons why they are too wonderful to do what the are doing. And they have to be in an alpha order. I am adorable. I am beautiful. I am couageous. I give them the first ones until they get the hang out of it. I am delightful. I am effervescent. I am fabulous.  I am heavenly. I am idolized. I am just wonderful. I am kindred spirit. I am lovable. I am momentous. I am never, never under line. And it goes on to z. And if they do it again, then they have to use another synonym. They can't use adorable any more. Now the children will say to a new student, I don't know why you don't behave, coz I'm tired of telling Ms. Collins  how wonderful I am.

ask right question.

第二讲：为什么学习积极心理学

背景：

这个课程会涉及很多的理论和观点，但是不是每种理论都会应发你的共鸣（适合性）。  所以，鉴别适合你的东西。

1967-2000年：积极心理学的形成时期

消极研究与积极研究比例：21:1（2000年前的研究）

1954年，有专家发现，心理学上研究消极情绪远比研究积极情绪成功

抑郁症、自杀的比例近年来明显提高。

问题导致改变，问题缔造现实。

为什么研究积极心理学：

1.集中研究有用的东西至关重要，因为它们会起作用。

2.快乐不只是对痛苦的否定。问题不会因此解决。

3.预防困苦的最有效方法就是通过专注于积极的心态。

如何专注研究有用的东西？答案就在问题的本身。

（举例：上世纪对 高危人群中失败的人之所以失败的原因，和对成功者的研究。{答案在于 适应力（适合的人与承认自己弱点的勇气） 与 乐观（涉及理想主义）}）

‘appreciate’的意思：一方面会认为对立的东西是理所当然的，另一方面会产生增值

Marve Collins:练习自信，关注优点，相信每个人的潜力，停止抱怨。（积极学习法）让事情有所改观。（榜样）

承担责任(培养与建立自信，认识到没人会来No one will coming让你的生活更美好)，做出行动。

本讲，首先介绍了积极心理学形成的背景，通过一个案例来讨论消极心理学与积极心理学之间认识的区别以及研究不同种类导致的结果，并且论证了提出问题才是解决问题的答案。接着，说明了一个积极的优秀的人才应该具有的品性。

积极参与不要被动接受   

研究积极心理学的必要性：1.研究有效的方法至关重要，可以更好的运用到生活中去；2.快乐并非对痛苦的否定；3.研究如何培养积极心态是预防抑郁、焦虑等疑难问题的最有效方法。

积极心理学是催生出一种心理变化使人们从无休止的减轻痛苦的过程中解脱，并且打造一个良好的生活品质。

问题创造现实，我们问的问题通常决定了我们追求的东西、我们选择的道路和我们所过的生活。

要多关注积极的一面

行动会增加我们的自信水平